Dustin Ross Murphy

I know as each and everyday passes, us as Mothers' hearts ache a little more.  We know you Beautiful Angels of ours are in A Amazing and Beautiful Place. It is just so hard for us to not be able to reach out and touch you or hear your voice or laughter or just to hear even a sigh ...  Yet, we also know you are with us each and every step and we try and be strong for you and for those all around us.. Dustin, Always let your Mom know she can be who she needs to be when talking or thinking about you and that you are by her side each step of the way. Fly High Beautiful and Hugs to You . Shell

Although I know what it feels like to lose someone close to you (my Mother, Frank), I could not possibly feel what it's like to lose a child.  I can only imagine the pain, and when I contemplate this, I feel I would not be able to handle it.  This memorial you've created is a besutiful tribute to a loving son, and I only hope it offers you some solice.  Please take care of yourself Laurie, and know that as a friend who loves you, you are in my thoughts always.

I do not, in any way, by this reading, wish to diminish, detract from or over look the pain and sorrow of others who loved Dustin, especially his father, Kent and his brother, Ian.

 

But I speak today because of, and on behalf of, Dustin’s mother, Laurie.  I’ve had the profound experience and bittersweet privilege of loving and sharing life with this woman during this, the cruelest year of her life, a life so utterly changed.

 

The next few lines which were adapted from “De Profundis,” a short work by the Irish writer, Oscar Wilde, seem so fitting…..      

 

The suffering for her is one very long moment.  She cannot divide it by seasons.  She can only record its moods, and chronicle its return.  For her, time itself does not progress.  It revolves.  It seems to circle round one center of pain.

 

For her there is only one season, the season of sorrow.  The very sun and moon seem taken from her.  It is always twilight in her heart.  And in the sphere of thought, no less than in the sphere of time, motion is no more.  The thing that some people may have forgotten is happening to her now, and will happen to her again to-morrow.

 

The suffering is permanent, obscure and dark and has the nature of infinity.  However, where there is sorrow, there is holy ground.

 

Dustin,

When people are able to understand, not merely how beautiful you were, but why you meant so much to her, and always will mean so much to her, then, perhaps, they will realize how and in what spirit they should approach her…..

 

Religion does not help her.

Reason does not help her.

But, Tears do help her.

 

The American author and historian Washington Irving once wrote:

 

There is sacredness in tears.  They are not the mark of weakness, but of power.  They speak more eloquently than ten thousand tongues.  They are messengers of overwhelming grief ….and unspeakable love.

 

Rest in peace, Dustin Ross Murphy, our forever-young, beautiful man.

 

Words can never begin to describe the grief of a parent losing a child.  My daughter Laura Maria Guzzo was born on January 24, 1985 and passed away on September 13 1999.  The pain of her passing has been replaced with the fond and loving memories of a life full of love.  This is what I hold on to and think of each and every day.

I truly feel and understand and even so what you feel will be different than my personal experience but know that you are not alone in your grief and that Dustin came here to share his life and share his joy in the short time he walked on this planet.  He gave an offered all those he touched the grace and blessing of his presence and love.  

May the days, weeks and years that come to pass remind you of the tenderness of life and how one person like Dustin can make a difference for so many.  We are always blessed with these angels that walk among us and sometimes we cannot know what the master plan is but know that Dustin came here to fulfill his role among us and share and teach us all so we can be better at living our life.

Wishing you Peace and Love and Light
Frank

Dustin, I wish I had known you deeper.  You were approaching a time in your life, and I in mine, when that was becoming possible.  I will miss that, I will miss you.

 

This is for your mother, paraphrased from “De Profundis” by Oscar Wilde:

 

Suffering for her is one very long moment. She cannot divide it by seasons. She can only record its moods, and chronicle its return. For her time itself does not progress. It revolves. It seems to circle round one centre of pain.

 

For her there is only one season, the season of sorrow. The very sun and moon seem taken from her. Outside, the day may be blue and gold, but the light that creeps down through the thickly-muffled glass of life beneath which she sits is grey and niggard.

 

It is always twilight in her heart. And in the sphere of thought, no less than in the sphere of time, motion is no more. The thing that some people may have forgotten is happening to her now, and will happen to her again to-morrow.

 

Suffering is permanent, obscure, and dark and has the nature of infinity. However, where there is sorrow there is holy ground.

 

Godspeed our forever-young, beautiful man,

Walter

Laurie......thank you for sending the video...Ian did a great job!!......it is heartbreaking and I am so sorry for your loss......he was gorgeous from the day he was born, where did he get that hair???...it was nice seeing your parents' pictures too....it seems that Dustin looked like your side of the family.

my younger son just posted this to youtube...

RIP Dustin Murphy

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Wonderfully done, a beautiful tribute

So very sad to lose our precious children. This is beautiful, Laurie

Laurie - how wonderful...made me cry though, but just so beautiful...

Really beautiful

Laurie, this was wonderful. Your son Ian did a great job. He had me smiling often ~ Life was so picture perfect and happy. How tragic he died so young, and yet what a full life your precious boy had, surrounded by loving friends and family and doing the fun, adventuresome things he loved to do. My heart is with you; I know you miss him terribly. Rest in peace Dustin, and God, please hold precious Laurie oh so close to Your heart

Laurie Murphy thank you all... tough pulling together the photos but so worth it

Laurie, Ian did an amazing job. I barely got through it once the karate pictures came up. it brought back so many of my own memories. Ive been so depressed for a few days now thinking about my son turning the same age as my daughter when she passed away. This life we have to life now is just so unfare. Your son was so adorable and turned into a handsome man. xoxo

OMGosh - this is beautiful! Dustin and Ian are both beautiful. Ian did a wonderful job with this montage. Thank you for sharing with us.

In my dreams, you are alive and well
Precious child, precious child
In my mind, I see you clear as a bell
Precious child, precious child

In my soul, there is a hole
That can never be filled
But in my heart, there is hope
'Cause you are with me still

In my heart, you live on
Always there never gone
Precious child, you left too soon
Tho' it may be true that we're apart
You will live forever... in my heart

In my plans, I was the first to leave
Precious child, precious child
But in this world, I was left here to grieve
Precious child, my precious child

In my soul, there is a hole
That can never be filled
But in my heart there is hope
And you are with me still

In my heart you live on
Always there, never gone
Precious child, you left too soon,
Tho' it may be true that we're apart
You will live forever... in my heart

God knows I want to hold you,
See you, touch you
And maybe there's a heaven
And someday I will again
Please know you are not forgotten until then

In my heart you live on
Always there never gone
Precious child, you left too soon
Tho' it may be true that we're apart
You will live forever... in my heart

Patti Finn via Laurie Murphy

Oh Laurie, this is so special...I miss him so much. We all do.

RIP Dustin Murphy

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Patti, ???? what happened to this young man??? must have been very loved... Handsome ...

Patti Finn Oh he was Jodi, a fine young man. He was a family friend, and aspiring young attorney who worked for my firm. He was killed in a motorcycle accident eight months ago...he was 24 years old. I loved him very much, and still do.

‎:-(

That is so so sad, sorry, it makes you think I just wanted to get my kids to 18 alive, like I guess I did an alright job, but, they are just never safe and you can never stop fretting about them....

 

Laurie Murphy thanks Patti... you were so good to him. He was feeling so good about himself and how his life was heading... I miss him so much i can't breathe

I don't know you laurie , but you broke my heart tonight .. such a beautiful young man ...god only knows why some of our beloveds journeys are so brief . I can only imagine your loss & shudder. I hope you find comfort knowing that his life didn't go unnoticed & he received & gave love in equal measure. God bless you .

What a wonderful son Laurie...the video was beautiful and touching.
Can't seem to stop the tears or even come up with the words I'd like to say....I'll let Dave speak for me...

I don't know you Laurie, but this video truly truly moved me.... and I'm so sooo sorry for your loss. David wrote above what many of us are feeling. : ( May God shine his love down upon you and yours always.

so very sad, a very touching video , my heart breaks for all his family and friends. may he rest in peace ...;(

Laurie Murphy Thank you all for watching and your kind words. It is true what they say... a parent's worst nightmare. I just hope that people will remember him.... he was a free spirit, loved life to the fullest and had a good soul.

Beautiful!

God bless

I can't possibly know how it feels to lose a child, Laurie, I just know from meeting you that Dustin was very fortunate to have such an awesome Mom...thank you for sharing this link with me, some great photos and memories for sure. I am so sorry for your loss, it has been great getting to know you and hope you keep coming to class for a long time...your are with friends there and I know it will help you on the road ahead...be well, see you soon...your friend, CM...